Welcome to the new year and my first Great Expectations guest of 2013! Great Expectations is my series of guest posts, in which bloggers share the expectations they have had in their lives, and what their reality turned out to actually be like.
Kerry writes at New2Two about her life at home with her two twin girls. She writes with raw emotion, but she’s also funny (check this post out…it’s one of the funniest #iPPP posts we’ve ever had linked up). Check out her blogging adventures, and find her online (on Twitter and on Facebook). She’s a great friend to have!
Thanks for sharing with us, Kerry!
Summary: I thought I would be wild, date, work my way to a power house position making lots of money, get married in my early 30s and pop out a slew of children while my husband raised them.
Well I was wild, didn’t date at all and became a bartender, married mid-20s, didn’t pop out a slew of kids, and now I stay home.
A Closer Look: I’m not sure why I even create a plan; nothing ever goes accordingly. My dream in life, as I mentioned, was to become a successful business woman and have a big family; big as in 7 kids big. When my husband and I started dating we agreed that I would work and be the bread winner while he raised a home full of rug rats.
That didn’t go exactly as planned. After a trying seven years we finally scored big time with twins. At this point I was 34 and our plans of a large family were pretty severed. Age, finances and health told me immediately that our plans were altered but that’s a story for another time.
I went back to work after being home with the girls for 4 months. I was sad to leave them but thought about our original plans of me working. A few months after being back at work I couldn’t take it anymore. I cried almost every day so we decided to try and make it work on one income.
I never, in a million years, thought I would want to do nothing more than to play with my girls all day and take care of a household; run errands, learn to cook, clean poop from the floor, and fold 87 loads of laundry. My idea of a perfect night dressed up was never in a princess gown, plastic heels and 17 barrettes. I never thought I would toss my degrees to the curb. But I did and I couldn’t be happier.
It’s been 3 years and I still love staying home with them more than anything. When they go to sleep at night I peek in on them and in the mornings I can’t wait to hear their little feet running around.
Sometimes it is truly difficult to see the big picture or believe that God knows what he is doing in the midst of tears or fighting but in the end it works out.
I know right now this is where we need to be; debt, stress, love and all. One day maybe I will get pregnant or the desire to go back to work but until that day my business woman career is perfectly intact at home; learning the traits of a domestic wife and mother.
Isn't it amazing how our definition of perfect changes with our perspective? I too enjoy rock the princess look some afternoons and LOVE it. Thanx!
YES!!! Thanks for reading:)
Good for you! I remember telling my teacher, Mrs. Makle, in fourth grade, that I wanted to be a teacher. Or a secretary. They were such glamorous jobs to me. And then I became a secretary and got fired because "THE KITCHEN IS RIGHT THERE; GET YOUR OWN DAMN COFFEE" wasn't really conducive to a harmonious work environment. I'm glad you're able to be with your girls. It's something I still aspire to, even though all of mine are school-aged (well, except the boy. He's only 3 but our elementary school has a pre-K 3 class, so…)
LOL that is hysterical! I'm right there with you:) Thanks for reading and commenting!
It's funny how sometimes we do end up in the most unexpected spots, and loving them. Your family is beautiful! 🙂
Thank you! I think so:)
Totally understand. I was forced to work with the birth of my second and third child and I was miserable. Now that they are older I am ready to get back into the work force. I was going to go back several years ago till my mother became ill and I cared for her till she passed. So now after a year of grieving and dealing with estate bulhockey am ready to go do something out there
Force and work is the worst combo ever! hahah I'm sorry about your Mother rip. Go do something for you now! You deserve it!
Greta!!! My love! You rock at the intro! I sound awesome! haha Thank you again for hosting me. It's such an honor considering how much I adore you, your site and your family!
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Isn't it funny how when we have what we think we wanted we don't want it anymore? Love this and cant wait to start reading your blog.
Thank you so much Robbie!!! I love your blog too! And you are so right….grass is what color??
What a beautiful family! It is so hard to recognize God's plan in the midst of the chaos, but when we can look back and see Him working all along? That's good stuff!
yes it is but He knows what hes doing. Thank you!